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December 29, 2006

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Silly

I think I am right with you on this one. My son (8) earned a PS2 last November and their are days when I let him play to his heart's content( hoping he will naturally not play for 15 hours....he does) and limiting him to a strict "x" amount of time per day ( monitor time, be it PC, PS2, or SpongeBob)

But my true "inner parent" feels like all things in moderation are fine. If I insisted my kids eat brownies for dinner everynight, within a few days they would rebel and plead for no more browmies and please can they have an orange or a banana, and OMG I am the worst mother in the WORLD.

Letting your child sit down and play games here and there is absolutely fine. I feel sorry for the children who are growing up in game free homes....those are the ones that are going to seek out video games like crack.

Silly

PS I do know the difference between their, they're , and there.

I guess I chose ( or did not use the preview button) to not to use my education in the above post.

Sorry!

Silly

squeekrgurl

I TOTALLY AGREE that video games ruin boys...and makes for a not so wonderful husband. My husband is a service member in the USN. On his days off, his leave periods he plays for 18 hours a day...that includes the 5 minute smoke breaks he takes while he has his head piece on. We have 3 kids already ages 6, 4 and 22 months and I am due with our 4th in May. I have had a constant battle with my 26 year old husband for the last 5 years of our marriage. Begging him to be an adult, a PARENT for heavens sake to his children and a HUSBAND to me. I live a VERY hard life. I am married and single. How does that happen? How can someone be married and single? Well, when your "husband" becomes part of your living room furniture, your kids become unaware of the violence they are seeing, and except it as a regular cartoon like barney or seasame street. When I have to VACUUM around him. When appointments come to my home, and my husband is reluctant to turn his video game off. When I ask him to come to bed and he gets mad and throws the controller at me. He has been playing these video games for years. Since Itari was out. He is a victom of the video game erra. The average "gamers" age is 40. Think about that. How many other wives out there have the same problem? How many marriages have ended because the husband was otherwise "deployed" or NOT a part of the family because he was consumed in making one more level? Or getting only 76 more points? My husband plays online games. Other gamers play along with him. These people "rely" on him to be there, and play right along with him. my husband has no friends outside of the game. We don't have social gatherings, holidays are spent watching my husband play countless hours of video games. He is unable to get up with the kids, to function in normal EVERYDAY life. He has a problem. By far one of the worst addictions. Harder to quit then "meth" harder to quit then drinking. Its right here, in our OWN living rooms. Its within reach. Its at youth centers, the neighbors house, the YMCA. Its EVERYWHERE. Its an outbreak..like a disease. Its mind over matter...and the mind is winning. He NEEDS it, He THRIVES on it. He uses it to escape...and no one thinks this is a problem????

Brian

I have to side with the Bruners here.

First, I want to establish that gaming is NOT an evil in itself anymore than alcohol is. However, both can be taken too far. Also like alcohol addiction, there is no one size fits all solution. Brewers, I believe, point that out. Some people can drink a little alcohol/gaming and be fine; others can't let it near them.

I think you are really stretching the point Playstation Nation is trying to make. For example, here:

"Huh? When's the last time you saw teenaged boys or college-aged men engaging in anything other than the pursuit of adventure, sex, conquest and domination? Am I crazy here? I think the Bruners may be living in a dreamworld if they think young men will trot around their God-given passions just because we blow up the GameCube."

I don't see them necessarily denouncing adventure, sex, conquest, or domination in themselves. All can be good things. Yes, even domination. What I see in that quote is one key phrase: "...it meets those basic drives of manhood in an artificial manner..." ARTIFICIAL, NOT-REAL. Gaming is not "real life." When people start thinking that the game is life, then we have an addiction problem. That, to me, is the point they are trying to make.

For anyone struggling with addiction or parents who want to be prepared, check out http://cgames.com

><>Brian
Research Director at CGames.com

Felicia

I agree with the review. I don't think the reviewer was saying it can't happen...it definitely can. But, not Everyone who plays these games, even if they spend most of their awake time during summer vacation playing it, is going to have their lives ruined. My boys are on the verge of addiction, and I know it. I have the job of monitoring them, and getting them to realize their possible addiction, and we are doing OK so far. I believe it would be great to get them outside to play some basketball or something, but that is not who they are. I will keep working on this, but I will not take away their lifestyle because everyone else wants them to be different than what they are. Some people who know me and my boys, like my fiance who grew up outside running around town alone, and playing on the beach all day, don't understand and never will. I hope I am right that they will be OK, and I will keep a steady watch, but even though they do play too much in other's opinion, they are interacting with other people laughing and talking, running to tell each other what they just did, and planning out when to meet online with their online friends, who may be 20 years older than them, but if they're just playing games it's OK. I am more strict about the content of personal information that is given out, and the comment's that are inappropriate. I keep an eye out for that, and it seems to be at bay.
It's the way this new world is, and it's not all bad. Do your best to know what's going on, if it's bad in your eyes, then stop it. If not, don't worry too much about the time spent, as long as they still do what they're supposed to be doing for school, work, etc. If they're not, you can use that as leverage to get them to be responsible..like the husband of squeekrgirl above...turn off the electricity if you have too! He needs to help you out!

Just a Mom's opinion, Felicia

teen addiction treatment

Oh no! video game addiction of the husband of squeekrgurl was terrifying. I can't believe that.

-mj-

Beacon

I think this is a fair review. It isn’t the first time I have heard the word “zealous” to describe this particular book. Others have commented that the book can be a bit on the “preachy” side with multiple references to God, higher power, etc. Like almost any enjoyable activity that can be fine in moderation (drinking, gambling, exercise, eating), there will be those who take it too far. Video game play seems to fall into this category as well. Millions of people (kids & adults) play video games. Most can keep it within healthy limits, but there are some who clearly play far too much and could be described as being addicted. Everything in moderation…

Another (downloadable) book for parents with a more balanced treatment approach is available here:

http://www.techaddiction.ca/help_child_addicted_to_video_games.html

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